Huh? I missed it.

With television, mp3 players, portable gaming systems and a constant need for speed, is there any wonder why we don’t listen to one another? Notice that the term used was listen and not hear.  Nowadays, we hear a lot and listen to next to nothing.

Is it then no wonder why relationships sometimes teeter on the brink of diaster just because someone said something the wrong way or someone else misinterpreted what was said? The answer is an easy one.  Clear communicative exchanges are crucial to healthy and long lasting relationships.  In others, to with and not at your partner.  Listen to and hear what they say.  Try to understand your partner’s perspective and if you can’t do on your own ask for clarification.

No one said it would be easy but to borrow from a cliche if you work for it, you’ll appreciate it more.

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The Pedestal

How many times can you handle disappointment in a new relationship?

When does a person receive your trust and affection? Is it granted by default until that person does something that illuminates that they may not be so deserving after all?

How many times have you met a “great” person and think wow here is someone that I could possibly date? They have all the features, beauty, brains, a sense of humor and are interested in seeing what you are about also.
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Love Hurts

Chris and RhiannaSome think its easy and should just flow and with the right chemistry, things can just fall into place. Other times, it can be like a time bomb waiting to explode… But when we are on the outside, all we can speak on is what we see. A lot of folks jump to conclusions and make assumptions. Yes its evident that someone got the worse out of the exchange being discussed repeatedly in the blogosphere and internet. And all the naysayers were instantly pouncing writing in all the reasons that it could have happened. But no one knows. Only they know.

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Exit Strategy

I think it is a fair statement to say that many of us have been fresh out of one relationship when someone new catches our eye. It could even be the same day as the official breakup. It could even be once you”ve mentally and emotionally checked out of the current relationship.

Is it wrong to let the shine and shimmer of a new person catch your eye? Well, yes and no. It’’s wrong if you mislead the person by saying you”re totally unattached, single and ready to mingle when you”ve JUST broken up with someone. You see whether you admit it or not, if there were actually true feelings of any sort in the recent relationship there is a period of mourning that is needed. Some may refer to this as soul ties, other may call it being sprung, still other may say that someone is whipped. Never mind the terminology, the issue is that there needs to be some lag time between relationships. Give your heart and mind time to mend. Read the rest of this entry »

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Bitches ain’t Shit

Hip Hop music. Love it and hate it sometimes. Seriously. This shit needs to grow up in a lot of ways.

On one hand it signifies the expression of youth culture in a myriad of forms: Clothing, Dance, Clothing, Art forms

On the other hand it symbolizes the struggles of inner city or lower income communities.

Bitches ain't shitWhen you dissect the lyrics, most of it is all machismo bravado… Its all about flossing, your car, house, clothes, jewelry, and the women who can”t get enough of you. Its all about talking about how different your life is from when you had nothing and so on and so forth. The “come up” if you will.

Everyone is busting guns on their songs. If you had no sense, you”d believe everyone on the radio or mixtape is a gang affiliated, drug-dealing murderer. Just so happens I can rap now huh? Whatever. Read the rest of this entry »

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Come together

I don”t like sharing and I don’t think that another woman would want to share me but I”m interested in your thoughts here:

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Is Marriage healthy for the Black Family

I want to first say that I agree that marriage is healthy for us and so is raising a family together. If the relationship isn”t healthy then I would venture to wonder about the root causes that are persisting to create an environment that would allow such a relationship to flourish.

What is your role in the situation?

Everyone is capable of sabotaging a relationship that is involved either directly or indirectly. What is prudent is that the two main people involved know that they control the fate of the relationship and what ever comes out of it. Working together and understanding the needs of one another is most important. I can sit on my high horse and point the finger at her and say this and that is her fault and she can do the same to me. Read the rest of this entry »

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No BIG deal.

In the beginning, every thing is fresh, exciting and new. You love the way he/ she looks while sleeping and they cut their meat in the cutest little pieces. You even like the way their lips twist slightly when they chew. Ah yes, this is love.

Nothing is too annoying or too off putting because you”re in love. You are still tingling from the very idea of being with this person on something so serious. Then one day, you come home from work and there are toenail clippings on the floor from the living room all the way to the bedroom. You call to your sweetie and in your calmest voice ask them about your disgusting find. They admit having left crusty toe remnants but inform you that it’’s really no big deal. You sigh as you hear them crunch beneath your feet. Still, toenails and all you love them. Read the rest of this entry »

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Pancakes with the bacon on the side! Tip her…

Can you cook?

I don”t mean just some ol hamburger helper, canned vegetables and boxed something else. Definitely not no “Slap it together with some water & shit in about 15 minutes and expect to be congratulated” type cookin…

I mean can you really throw down? Can you whip up a meal in under an hour that will make ya partner’’s feet curl?

If you can then half the battle is won.

As a man, I don”t understand how these ladies be trying to lock a brotha down and ain”t never said let me invite him over for a home cooked meal. That is just plain crazy.

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Smoking = Erectile Dysfunction

Another reason why we shouldn”t smoke fellas. Among other health risks, smoking is now linked to Erectile dysfunction.

This article also says quitting didn”t decrease effects of ED.

Maybe James Dean wasn”t so cool after all.

Men who smoke risk erectile dysfunction

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